|Looking pretty cute and well-behaved|
According to one of my favorite parenting role models, Dr. William Sears, “Discipline is everything you put into children that influences how they turn out.” Everything. Sears, who coined the term attachment parenting, also refers to discipline as “giving your children the tools to succeed in life.” The link on Discipline and Behavior over at AskDrSears.com has myriad great ideas, and I encourage you to check them out. I find 25 Ways to Talk So Your Children Will Listen to be particularly helpful.
So, what does positive discipline mean to our family? It’s not about a specific way of “doing” things or having set “rules” at all. Discipline is simply a part of our overall lifestyle of maintaining high expectations for our children while setting a good example.
We put relationships first. We strive to make most of our interactions with our little ones positive. We remember that our relationships (connections) with our children are the most important consideration. Everything else (including whatever specific issue you are addressing) is secondary. Connect first, address second.
We don’t make things harder than they need to be. Sometimes the simplest solution is the best. Remember the developmental stage your child is in right now. Keeping your expectations realistic will help make discipline go smoother. Children are not small adults. They do not think and reason the way we do.
We do not spank our children or use other physical punishment (e.g., slapping exploring little hands). Ever. Not even to reinforce danger discipline.
|Who me? Need discipline?|